D.2 Friends
1.I have at least one true friend: 1 2 3 4 (5)
2.I make an effort to get to know new people and make new friends: 1 2 (3) 4 5
3.The friends I hang out with are a positive influence on me: 1 2(3) 4 5
4.I’m inclusive of others and don’t belong in an exclusive clique: 1 2 3 (4) 5
5.I don’t judge people before I get to know them: 1 2 3 (4) 5
6.I’m loyal to my friends and don’t talk behind their backs: 1 2 3 4 (5)
7.I'm quick to forgive my friends when they make mistakes: 1 2 3 4 (5)
8.I'm a good listener and don't discriminate discussion: 1 2 3 4 (5)
9.I'm kind to everyone not just people I like: 1 2 3 4 (5)
10.I am able to resist peer pressure and be my own person: 1 2 3 4 (5)
total:44
good: 40-50
okay:30-39
bad:10-29
Why I admire my friends
Friend: Bethany
Why I admire her: She's always there for me, and no matter how bad of a mood she's in or how personal her problem is, she'll tell me and I'll help--the same she would do for her. We write stories together and share imaginary worlds. We rarely argue about anything. But still, we are very different. She's like the ying to my yang.
Friend: CJ
Why I admire him: He's pretty cool. He's always out to make others happy and he's very selfless. Even if he's had a terrible day he still tries his hardest to make you smile! And, even if he's not an avid reader he'll still read stories his friends write and try his very best to edit them. And he's like that to everyone, it's very hard not to enjoy his company. However, he can be every introverted with his own feelings and problems so it's quite a simple joy when he lets you help--because you know he doesn't let a lot of people in.
Friend: Kristen
Why I admire her: Well, she's the one that spices up my school day! If it wasn't for her I would be sitting there doing nothing all lunch. She's always funny, but easy to anger. Rarely does she lash out at friends though.
My Good Qualities when I first meet people
I’m always very shy when I first meet people
Though I am polite and kind
Im respectful and stuff too…
Appreciated:
My friends do quite like my general kindness, so check that one… because the more I become friends with someone the less respectful I become and the less polite too… But also the less shy!
What friends think are my best qualities:
My friend Bethany would say I am always a good listener, mainly because she does most of the talking between us both! She probably thinks I’m pretty amusing too… she probably likes how I don’t mind being close and stuff, like hugging because she likes hugging.
Though, my friend CJ would say he likes how outgoing I am and how I take control of the conversation… but hates how touchy feely I am.
I kind of change depending on who I’m around, I suppose.
WHY DID I CHOSE THESE FRIENDS AND WHY DID THEY CHOSE ME?
Well, I don’t chose friends, really. I’ll befriend almost anyone who’s nice to me and is willing to talk to me. I meet people and befriend them in different ways. Some I meet at school, and one commented on my art via the internet and we started talking that way [Well, we met at my friend’s house back in grade 6 (/he was in grade 8) but we didn’t start talking until last November]. They all live differently and act differently, frankly the only guild line I have for friends is be nice to me and respect me until we get to the point in the relationship we can insult each other without caring.
Why they chose me is beyond my understanding. Even when I ask my friends they’re just like “I donno” (actual quote, by the way).
PEOPLE WATCHING:
WHAT MADE ME THINK SOME WERE POPULAR AND SOME WEREN’T?
They seemed more proud and confident. They dressed well and had friends.
What I learned from people watching:
I didn’t learn anything, I always people watch. See how different type of people walk and talk and how they handle themselves—do they hunch over or stand straight? Walk slowly or scurry about? Do they frantically look around or just not care about the world around them?
Have you ever been bullied? How did it make you feel?
Of course I’ve been bullied. To put it frankly, it sucked. After I got back to school after my year and a half long battle with cancer everyone called me a boy (I was bold after all)… They would fight me on my gender! And then in grade 6 people would make fun of me for some mole on my face. That’s it, though.
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN A BULLY?
How can I be a bully if I don’t talk to people, ever? Maybe I’ve called my brother foal names, but only after he’s being a butt and throws my cat at me (holding a grudge from earlier today, whoops.)
This next activity is about meeting new every day of the week. Unless you want me to have a panic attack and die, I didn’t think it to be a good idea and didn’t do it.
Peer pressure shield:
My support system:
I guess not to get into trouble—mom’s pretty scary when she’s mad.
What I will do in the moment:
Complain how I think it’s not a good idea and just kinda be like “yeah, I don’t want to really” until they leave me alone. It’s worked in the past, at least.
Peer pressure:
Why’s I give into it last time?:
Because I was curious, mostly. I frankly was just asked and I was like “haha, okay” even if I knew it was dumb. Maybe because everyone else was doing it? I don’t know.
What do I plan to do in the future when faced with peer pressure?
Well, I could always just not leave the house and not do anything. That works well for me, too.
5 WAYS TO SAY NO:
1. Haha, you’re funny.
2. I’m so done with you and your shenanigans.
3. And this is the exact reason I don’t leave my room.
4. I think my laptop is calling me.
5. I would much rather just not.
What me and my friends stand for:
… We stand for different stuff and stuff, I’m not judging them on their choices and they won’t judge me. If they feel the need to judge me or try to change my choices they aren’t really friends, are they?