d.3
checklist:
1. I have a good relationship with my parents: 1 2 3 (4) 5
2. I show respect to my parents: 1 2 3 4 (5)
3. My parents trust me: 1 2 3 4 (5)
4. I frequently help out my parents without being asked: 1 2 3 (4) 5
5. I know a lot about my parents like their likes, dislikes, values, ect.: 1 2 (3) 4 5
6. My parents know a lot about me: 1 2 3 (4) 5
7. My parents and I communicate well with each other: 1 2 3 (4) 5
8. We are pretty good at solving problems: 1 2 3 (4) 5
9. If and when we do fight/argue my parents and i quickly make up: 1 2 3 4 (5)
10. I can honestly say I love my parents: 1 2 3 4 (5)
Total: 43
40-50=good
IDEAL RELATIONSHIP WITH PARENTS:
today: Well, with my mother... We go places together, like the river to take the dog for a walk.. Maybe we can freely talk about what's been bothering us and news on drama in our lives.
And as for with my dad, seeing him once a week for lunch or whatever. That sounds petty nice...
20 years from now: Maybe I could have something like my mother and grandmother had--she would go out and visit eachother every week. Though, given my parents are split maybe I could visit them both but on alternating weeks.
THREE THINGS I CAN DO RIGHT TO CREATE THIS IDEAL RELATIONSHIP
1. actually leave my room and talk to mom.
2. actually call my father more.
3. Go places when I'm asked if I want to go... instead of napping all day.
WHY MY PARENTS EMBARRASS ME:
Whenever my dad does he does it on purpose and as a joke (cruel much!)
and my mother doesn't do it often, again she does it in the form of a joke... but not as often as dad. Hm... I can't really think of anything either of them do that's that bad. Though I embarrass my mom all the time with how I refuse to wear anything but ugly shirts and unmatching pj pants when I'm home--even if we're going out.
ASK PARENTS ABOUT THEIR RULES:
My mother doesn't really ask my friends questions or have a curfew for me... I'm homebound! Other from that, what would i ask? Why she doesn't let me close my bedroom door when my male friend is over? I already know that one--she's already told me that one. Not that it's inforced well--she's always out! (but me and him are just friends anyway, and she's cool with me going to his house so...???) I just have to tell her 24hours in advance if I have plans with friends so she doesn't go out that night like she does every other night...
How i can show more love:
actually say I love you first. be more social. stuff like that.
LISTS:
People I trust:
Bethany, my mom and dad, and I guess I've started to trust CJ quite a bit.
My Biggest Concerns:
Hm, that's probably what I'm going to do with my life after schooling. I mean, I tell my friends and parents I'm just gonna grow up to be a crazy old cat lady but I don't think that'll work out for me.
Things I can do:
Actually pick what I want to do with my life that is relevent to my interests.
Other helpful ideas:
Well CJ says I should do something with my interest in history--given he often catches me watching documentries on the 20th cent. But I also want to write books or become an artist--both of which are very unstable jobs.
Person I Will share them with:
??? I think I've shared this with everyone, actually. I'm a pretty open person.